Tuesday, September 27, 2011

Need to Lovers Resort to Kundli Matching?

By Graham Flynn


On Astrological sites, forums as well as other publications, quite always we read from frustrated lovers about biggest obstacle on their way - the Kundli Matching. Our youngsters do have respect for your sentiments and social reputation of their elders. This can be the reason they wish their elders to bless them in the wedlock. They wish that their beloved be accepted as being a future spouse. At this juncture, they face the test of Kundli Matching.One can only imagine how badly they should be feeling about Astrology after they are denied marriage as a result of non-compatibility on the basis of Astrology.! Hearts matched but Kundlis didn't.!

While marriage after short term 'ILU ILU' has its own hazards, I strongly think that rejecting an otherwise excellent boy or a girl due to low score on astrological compatibility is just too much. The saying 'Known devil is far better than an unknown angel' includes a great deal to say here.

Golden Advice to Lovers

It would not be wise to go in for Kundli Matching when you are involved for a substantial time. If a thing unfavorable comes out during this kind of matching; it would produce a doubt for the whole life.

I personally believe that the 'Kundli Matching' is a futile exercise. You might be shocked for getting this kind of a comment from an astrologer.! Yes, I am astrologer and even though, I think this strongly. I have 2 children and I have never indulged in matching their kundlis. This can be because, I have understood the notion of Kundli Matching astrology and I do not entertain astrology at the price of my commonsense.

Astrologer could possibly be just instrumental.!

I know that the relationship of Husband-Wife establishes only once there is incredibly beneficial degree of 'Rinanubandhan' (Past dues to be settled). So, as soon as you will find huge dues being settled with every other, then only 2 folks would turn into spouses. Understanding the meaning of fate, we can not blame astrologer declaring miss-match of Kundlies. It could possibly be possible that there's not enough 'Rinanubandha' among a couple of lovers to become husband and wife and Kundli Matching might just be instrumental in termination in the relationship. If this can be the case, even when kundli matching is OK, there could possibly be some other hurdles to obstruct the relationship to materialize.

What is Kundli?

The kundli is charted on the basis in the position of planets at the time of birth. Astrologers interpret the Kundlies on the basis of placement and combination of planets therein. As the possibility of possessing a house, education, job, wellness etc. are assessed from numerous houses/planets with the horoscope; similarly the marital happiness 1 is destined to derive is also indicated inside the birth chart itself. So if one is married to 'x' or 'y' the total possible happiness of married life must not change.

Does Birth Chart changes after Marriage?

You may possibly ask the astrologer who matches kundlis, whether the horoscope gets changed following marriage? 'No' would be the answer. Now, it's a matter of commonsense that if Kundli does not change, the outcomes (about marital happiness) needs to be the output in the same original horoscope. It can not be inferred in any way that happiness right after marriage is derived as an output of their combined horoscope.

Time has changed a lot

The kundli matching did have some practical importance inside the era once it was not feasible for your candidates to know every other ahead of marriage. During the offer era of dating and pre-marriage meetings, the prospective spouse have clearly better opportunities to understand the nature of every other. This acquaintance would be additional fascinating rather than getting some rough concept about knowing the personal attributes of another person via astrology.

Most on the astrologers would avoid to accept the more than information and even if they know this, their professional interest would not enable them to occur out clearly and frankly on the issue.

Male Dominance

An average astrologer would match the Kundli with the conventional 'Ashta-koot' method. This technique is produced on the basis of ancient society. The parameters involved in this technique are formulated to assess the qualities of bride with respect to societal expectations of individuals days. Now the time has changed and also the expectations of spouses are changed drastically. It is not at all advisable to use the outdated process of Ashta-kuta to assess compatibility from the prospective couples during the supply era.

Without understanding the essence of Mangal inside the life of todays professionally qualified girls, the astrologers come out with Mangalik Dosha etc. In fact, Mangal is energy and intelligence. In those days as soon as the 'submissiveness' of wife was most desired quality, Mangal placed in particular houses in the girl's horoscope was regarded bad. The process was drafted to ascertain the dominance of Male within the relationship. But now, the girls are creating exceptionally well on all fronts; be it education or occupation. For this kind of girls it is natural that she need to have a prominent Mangal in her chart. With no the support of Mangal, she can't be ready accomplish all the achievements. For this kind of girls, it would be natural to acquire slightly high sense of self-esteem. The expectations of today's husbands are also several than the traditional. They've learned the art of accommodating earning wife's domination. The males know that she isn't just a housewife, now. She is his partner. However, unfortunately the astrologers are still going ahead with their century old methods.




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